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The 2 Modes Of Expressing Yourself – Which Mode Do You Use Most?

Friday, September 29th, 2006

We find that there is 2 ways of looking at any situation we
may find ourselves in. For instance you may have heard the
saying…

“Is the glass half empty or is the glass still half full?”

These 2 ways of expression may well refer to the same
situation, yet if we examine them both we will see that
they actually divide the world around us into light or
darkness, into positive or negative, into plus or minus.

Now which of the 2 modes do you use most when you
are thinking everyday?

Your mode of thinking leads to attracting those very
things into your life. If your goal is to make more
money and spend less time working, then you are going
to have to focus on thinking about success, and not
fearing it.

If your thinking is all dark and negative… if you always
fear failure, then you will most definitely fail. Even
to run away from your given circumstances will do you
no good. You see your circumstances will only follow
you wherever you go.

This is because your environment and present
circumstances cannot change for you until your mind
and heart does!

You cannot become unhappy if there is no doubt or
negativity in your mind, to make you unhappy.

Researchers state that the average person thinks about
70,000 thoughts each and every day. Now just imagine
the potential of your thoughts if only a fraction
were backed up by positive modes of thought and
creative action.

Unfortunately for most men and women, virtually all of
these thoughts are the same ones that the individual
has always thought about over a long period of time.

In addition, the great majority of these thoughts are
negative by nature, which in turn creates a current
negative present time in your life…

A good example of this is that most people do not
believe that wealth and prosperity is a lifestyle
choice which is fully within their own control…

Many people hold the belief that the only way they
will ever get rich is by robbing a bank, breaking
the law or by winning the lottery etc…

Other people’s skepticism can also be just enough
to kill your desire - to pursue what may have
otherwise been a fantastic opportunity for you.

Anything that is worth doing is worth doing well,
and nothing that is worth doing well can be done
without positive effort!

Still though, many people work themselves to the
bone instead of spending more time with their
creative thought because they are ruled by fear
and by pressure to “make something of themselves”
that society expects of them.

How many of your 70,000 daily thoughts are spend
on worry and fear as opposed to the creative and
positive process?

Don’t let fear and worry rule over your life
anymore. Use your mind power to attract every
positive thing in life which you could ever
hope for or desire.

Go for your dreams and ignore anything else but
your creative positive mind.

Try to never take what negative-people say to you
seriously… as it is sure to discourage you from
your efforts, but this is only if you let it do so!

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Five Instant “Stress Soothers” for Counteracting Negative Emotions

Sunday, September 24th, 2006

Do you ever have thoughts, feelings or impulses that attempt to hijack you?

These intense feelings and thoughts come out of nowhere. They show up when you least expect it. It might be anxiety, despair, loneliness, resentment, bitterness, jealousy, or anger. What is your response to this villain who is attempting to take over your mind, body and emotions?

You have two choices: Willingly become a prisoner, or assert yourself and regain control.

Negative emotions can take root in your life, and have far-reaching consequences. Often people convert their anxiety to physical symptoms, and actually become sick. This is known as psychosomatic illness. It is not imaginary, either. People have been known to develop skin problems, diabetes, arthritis, high blood pressure, and many other ailments—all due to stress of mismanaged emotions

Why does this happen? It starts with mismanaged emotions draining energy from your body. This leaves you feeling exhausted and worn out. When your immune system is lowered, you’re more likely to suffer physical breakdown (colds, flu, illness or disease.) Of course, there is also emotional breakdown (lashing out, panic attacks, anxiety, feeling disoriented, depression, irrational fears, etc.)

You see, there is a mind-body connection. Negative emotions may adversely impact your health. That is why it’s wise to keep your emotions under control.

To avoid being “hijacked,” turn the gun around and hold your thoughts captive. Use your inner voice to coach yourself, and regain control of your emotions. For starters, try these five “stress soothers” to help you counteract negative emotions:

1. Change your perspective. You may not be able to control the source of your stress, but you can control the way you respond to it. Change your perspective by reframing what is happening around you. In other words, change your interpretation. Think about things in a new and positive way. If you’re on the verge of a meltdown, for example, because your spouse trashed the bathroom (and left wet towels on the floor) you could remind yourself that he was running late for work. If your co-worker lashes out at you, remind yourself that they are stressed because of deadlines, quotas, or something else beyond your control. In other words, try to be easy going and don’t take things personally. Whatever happens, strive to be cool, calm and collected. Rather than lashing out and reacting emotionally to difficult people and situations, diffuse your feelings by putting things in a proper perspective. Reframing takes conscious effort, but being flexible and easygoing will reduce your stress level.

2. Let it go. Be forgiving of others and yourself. There is a difference between conviction and condemnation. Conviction is a healthy form of guilt. If you make a mistake, admit it. Accept responsibility and strive to make things right. Learn from your mistakes. Once you’re dealt with things, let go of all guilt and regret. Don’t rehash, analyze, blame, or continue to ask why things happened the way they did. Don’t condemn yourself; let it go. Release your feelings and don’t apply any more negative energy to the situation. Remember that there is nothing you can do to change the past. Let go of your mistakes. Put it behind you and move on with a clean slate.

3. Realize that the only person you’re responsible for is yourself. Sometimes obvious solutions are overlooked by the people who need them the most. Your aunt can’t finish a sentence without hacking, and gasps for air after walking up the stairs. The problem? She refuses to stop smoking. There’s a job opening that’s perfect for your unemployed neighbor with seven kids. The problem? He refuses to apply. The man is crippled by feelings of inadequacy and failure. To make matters worse, he refuses to get help for his emotional problems. As much as we want to help other people, they must want to help themselves. We can’t talk them into it. In the long run, individuals must be personally motivated to change. Don’t be stressed out about people, circumstances or events that are beyond your control. If someone refuses to get the help they need, realize that it’s not your responsibility. The only person you’re responsible for is yourself.

4. Keep a positive mental outlook. You can be resilient to stress in everyday life by thinking positively. Be happy, optimistic, upbeat and adventurous. Let setbacks roll off your back. Change the way you look at problems until you find the best solution. Live your life as a winner, and you’ll perform at your best. Be convinced that you can do anything you set your mind to. No matter what the situation, strive to be cool, calm and collected. Have a good sense of humor about yourself. If all of this seems Pollyannaish to you, consider a person who dwells on negative thoughts, beliefs and attitudes. It will take them twice as long to succeed (if that happens at all.) Pessimism enhances stress, and tends to make things worse.

5. Be assertive when you need to be. It is important to deal with problems immediately and directly. Speak up for yourself. It may not be appropriate to vent your frustrations at work, but you can confide in a spouse, friend or family member. In other words, express your feelings in a safe environment. Don’t stuff your feelings, or attempt to de-stress by overeating, smoking or drinking excessively. It’s important to be in touch with your feelings and to acknowledge them. Express your thoughts clearly and with conviction. Look at people when you talk to them. You can be assertive and still be considerate of the feelings of others.

Realistically, there will be always be times that fall prey to negative emotions. We can train ourselves to recognize these feelings and address them, before they “hijack” us and take us prisoner. Increased awareness and better coping skills will put us on the road to less stress, every time.

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Being Successfully Single Until the Right One Comes Along!

Tuesday, September 19th, 2006

Our planet is brimming with a random lottery of people; undeniably though, finding true love can be considered a risky business. Love is supposed to be a beautiful feeling with lots of happy thoughts emanating from the whole package of being in love, so why is finding true love is considered a difficult challenge?

Is finding love really so hard though? Or do we just make it hard? Finding love is not hard, but sometimes it takes a long time. So if you are single now, and I assume that you are, then you are likely goint go be single for awhile.

Here are some advantages of being single:

1. You are independent Basically you can do what you want when you want. You don’t have to wait, you don’t have to ask, you can just go.

2. You have more time When you’re single; you don’t have to sit around doing nothing. Want to go to the gym? Want to join the hiking club? Play an instrument? How about watch your favorite video for 10th time? Want to take a course? Learn a new hobby? Who’s stopping you?

3. You don’t have to deal with another’s personal habits You can sleep without listening to someone’s snoring and hog all the blankets all the time and nobody cares. You don’t have to pick up after anyone but yourself. And you don’t even have to pick up after yourself if you don’t want to. Give your patience a well-deserved break.

4. You can be spontaneous Be daring! Do what you want when you want to and who cares if you don’t get to dinner until midnight? Do something out of the ordinary, without having to get permission first or calling ahead. This is freedom!

5. You can focus on your career You can channel your energy into your work. Without a relationship, you have a lot more time. Put in those extra hours and impress your boss, or take on new projects.

6. You are your own boss Relationships need compromise and you don’t always get your own way. Both people in a relationship have to give something up for the greater good of the relationship. Do what you want and treat yourself more. Selfishness is good for the soul (in small doses).

Don’t stress! That special someone is out there and you can and will find them. It just takes time.

In the meantime, enjoy being single. In fact, I believe that if you can’t be happy being single, you will never be happy with your soulmate! Kind of like rich and poor. There are lots of poor people who are happy and lots that are unhappy. Same with rich people — lots are happy and lots are unhappy. Now what do you think would happen if we took a poor who was unhappy, and gave them lots of money?

You guessed it! They would probably be happy for a short time, but it wouldn’t last and eventually they would be just as unhappy as they were.

Ever wonder why that is? Being happy comes from inside of you not outside. OK, you are single — enjoy yourself and that special person will come along before you know it!

I hope that you have found this article useful in your search. If you would like to more about finding your soulmate, please visit my website Soulmate Secrets.

Robert Johanssen is a Psychologist and Author living in British Columbia. He has publish Ebooks and articles on psychology, singles, relationships and Popular Culture. Visit his website, Secrets for finding your soulmate for advice, tips and resources for singles, and finding that special someone.

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The Secrets of “Watchability” for Speakers

Thursday, September 14th, 2006

“Watchability.” Both my spell checker and an online dictionary
tell me that “watchability” is not a real word. However, I will
continue to use it because, in my opinion, the ability to be
watchable may be the single most important trait a speaker can
have.

This summer, I attended the annual convention of the National
Speakers Association. I thought that the kickoff speaker was
amazing. However, if you break down his style in purely technical
terms, he was awful. He kept moving around the stage, he stepped
out of the light and into the audience, he checked his watch
while speaking, etc. Despite all that, he had watchability.
Something about his delivery and style kept me grossly engaged.
Others must have thought so as well - you don’t get to open a
national speakers convention if people think you’re no good.

So what is watchability? It is, to be a bit redundant, the
characteristic of being watchable. People enjoy watching and
listening to you speak. The amazing thing is that if you are
watchable, then even if you mess up or if your content or
delivery isn’t up to snuff, the audience will enjoy it.

The ultimate goal, of course, is to have great content and
delivery while being amazingly watchable. The challenge is that
while content and delivery are easily viewable traits,
watchability is abstract. It’s easy to watch a speaker and
critique how they move, or how they use their facials. You can
listen and critique stutters, inflection, pace, and vocal
variety. The value of their content is easy to immediately judge.

Watchability, however, is like charisma. You can’t define a set
criteria, but you know it when you see it.

I have however, observed a few things that all eminently
watchable speakers do:

1) They are themselves. These speakers speak from the heart, and
speak in a style that is true to themselves. They don’t use other
people’s words, and they don’t use unnatural body movements that
a coach taught them. They give you the impression that if the two
of you were hanging out for dinner, they would say the same thing
in the same way.

2) They are comfortable. Watchable speakers look right at home on
stage. This comes from two things: 1) they are experienced and
know the material inside and out, and 2) they are not afraid of
failure. While they want to communicate their message and please
they audience, they are not wrapped up in all that. They are
content to just get on stage and do their best. If the audience
likes it great; if not, it’s not the end of the world.

3) They are having fun. You have probably seen a speaker (even a
“professional”) who looks like they don’t want to be on stage.
Watchable speakers have fun. Even if their topic is serious, they
clearly act as if they want to be on that stage. They view it as
an honor and a privilege. Whether it stems from fear, arrogance,
burn-out, or some mysterious other factor, when a speaker would
rather be somewhere else, an audience can feel it.

Practice implementing these three ideas: be yourself, get
comfortable, and have fun. You can instantly and drastically
increase the value of your speech without changing a single word
if you do this. You will, in word, become “watchable.”

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Why not seriously examine your life?

Saturday, September 9th, 2006

You are actually much more that what you are displaying physically and mentally.

Is your life filled with mundane chores, stale relationships, doubts and insecurities? Does your mind tend to gravitate toward negative thoughts and lack? Are your living a life with little sign of advance and growth?

How did you arrive at where you are now? What does your present experience really mean?

Probably you might have allowed someone else to do your thinking and run your life. You could have also concentrated more on your problems and difficulties and instead of challenging them, gave in and quit finding for solutions.

You may have lived a life without goals and dreams and let yourself go with the flow. You could even have waited and hoped that someone might come along and help you get out of the rut.

You may have focused on the negative and failed to find the positive in things. You are not even aware of what gives you pleasure and do not know how to turn your pain around.

You have allowed your “autopilot” to direct your thoughts, actions and dialogues. You don’t know how you got into your state of depression or anger but responded as you always have, to someone or something that triggered it.

You are an expert at flashing out pictures of past mistakes and hurts in your head but do not know how to tune in fond and pleasant memories. You keep hearing voices inside telling you what you should do and how you should behave but have not even pondered on whose voice or where it came from.

You are afraid to ask for what you want and refuse to learn from your experiences and from others. You stick around with the same people who drain your energy and make you feel miserable because of your fear of feeling alone and lost. You don’t make new friends because you are afraid of being rejected.

How and what would you change your experiences?

It is in your attitude.

  • Make a firm decision to change into someone better.
  • Find something that get you totally motivated to do.
  • Examine what causes you pain and makes you revolt.
  • Find something useful and focus on the positive in every outcome or behavior in yours or other people.
  • Ask yourself better questions and take notice of your thoughts and self-talks.
  • Create better pictures inside your head.
  • Spend a little quiet time alone on a regular basis.
  • Learn all that you can learn, take action and act courageously.

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The Quickest Way to Get is to Give

Monday, September 4th, 2006

It’s true. You can’t really get what you want in life until you have given it to others. Doesn’t sound like it makes much sense, does it? How can you give what you don’t have? As you open your mind to the possibility and ask this question of yourself, you allow opportunity to come to you and knock at your door. Then you will find a way that it is possible to give to others what you want, before receiving it yourself.

It almost sounds like a chain letter and in a way it is. The chain letter is a facetious reference as so many of us have been exposed to them by now and know they are illegitimate scams. Yet the basic principles are: you give before you receive, and you give with the faith and expectation of receiving. A similar modern example can be seen in the film ‘Pay It Forward’. By giving to others, you allow good things to happen to you. And this all boils down to the simple law of attraction.

The law of attraction is like any other law of nature, like gravity. And like gravity, it is not one that has been generally ‘discovered’ yet. As a result, most of us are walking around thinking in a completely disordered paradigm.

Disordered paradigms of thought are displayed over and over in history, and discoveries of natural laws and observations of reality have brought order to transform the mistaken beliefs that had been accepted for fact. You can think of many examples, such as the belief that the world is flat, or the belief that we are at the center of the universe. Or the great changes that resulted as a discovery of the force of electricity and harnessing its natural power.

In this same way, we are able to make a change in our own disordered thought patterns. Right now 99% of us are probably dissatisfied. Dissatisfaction means larger life is seeking to be expressed through us, and it is being blocked. Self-sabotage is a very real process working in the invisible realms of the unconscious mind.

The good news is there are a lot of simple, small but powerful techniques you can use to reprogram that all powerful unconscious mind of yours, to order your own life as you want it. Yes, there IS a way to eliminate the chaos in your life, and it starts within. It starts by eliminating the often unseen chaos in your own mind.

The technique in this article is only one of a vast array that you can use on a daily basis to improve your life dramatically. In this article you are learning how to use the law of attraction to attract to yourself what you want.

The law of attraction, like gravity, is undefiable. You will attract what you are sending out. Your thoughts are real in the world of attraction.

If your mind is resonating with patterns of anxiety, stress, anger, sadness, envy, grief, or any other negative emotion, you will be attracting more of the same in your life.

One step you can take to change this is to focus on giving to others before you receive yourself. In this way you are changing your vibration and your focus. And you open yourself to receive what you had been closing off before.

It is very simple to give. Give of what you have, and everyone has something to give. We all have innate value to offer the world. An abiding philosophy in the law of attraction is to always offer an increase in value, to give back more in value than you receive in money. In this way you continue to give more than you get and attract more and larger life back to yourself.

Take a moment to look within and find something, anything, no matter how small or simple, to give to anyone, friend or stranger. Start the practice of giving, and you will take one step towards raising your level of vibration and enhancing the value of what you attract in your own life. Give something selflessly today, knowing that you will receive it multiplied back in your life, tenfold.

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